Here’s what to Say to Her

Here’s a couple quick pointers on what to say to a girl.

But before we begin want to know the real secret?

The secret is that it doesn’t matter that much.

Well… at least it doesn’t matter as much as good energy and confidence matter. The actual content isn’t that important as long as the woman is enjoying herself and you don’t say anything too weird, socially unacceptable, or creepy.

Here’s a couple quick pointers on what to say to a girl.

But before we begin want to know the real secret? The secret is that it doesn’t matter that much. Well… at least it doesn’t matter as much as good energy and confidence matter. The actual content isn’t that important as long as the woman is enjoying herself and you don’t say anything too weird, socially unacceptable, or creepy.

Ok, here’s a couple pointers:

There is No Perfect Thing to Say

It’s mostly just about your ATTITUDE – if you’re having fun, self-amused, and don’t “need” to get a good reaction from her you are good. Have the attitude that if you chat her up and it doesn’t go as planned that it’s still a win because you learned something.

Don’t Run Out of Things to Say

MOST GUYS run out of things to say: prevent this by lowering the quality of content you think is necessary and making comments about things as opposed to just asking questions.

Feel free to mix in conversation about just regular stuff and just chat.

Whatever you say has value purely because it comes from you: if you think it’s cool that energy will come off and she will think it’s cool as well (even if it’s not that cool)… but even if she doesn’t think it’s cool you don’t care (you not “caring” or “needing” about a positive reaction from her is the whole point).

Stop filtering yourself (lower the criteria of how good something you say needs to be).

If you have something on your mind just let it out.

Believe in what you are saying and express yourself if you have passion about an idea or topic.

Just talk about whatever but KEEP a GOOD ATTITUDE about what you are saying.

Amuse Yourself

Try incorporating the idea of SELF-AMUSEMENT – you are saying stuff that entertains you, which makes you feel good, then that great energy is transferred onto the girl – it’s like an emotional transference. You feel good and so now she feels a bit better too just based off your energy. Obviously don’t just act like a clown though, use social intelligence and still be “normal” just be a man that isn’t waiting for the world to make him happy, make yourself happy.

Pull the Trigger

One last tip: just do it, just pull the trigger. It’s much better to talk to that girl you are interested and have it suck than to not have even tried. Trust me. Just do it.

Summary and Conclusion

Pull the trigger and talk to her. Make comments and ask questions. Don’t worry about what you’re saying as being not good enough. Be positive and try to feel good so she can feel good.